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An act of Kindness….pass it on

AN ACT OF KINDNESS….PASS IT ON!

It was my birthday on Friday, and this year I finally did something that I have been wanting to do for a while, asking my friends to do some act of kindness when it presented itself for someone else.

I think the thought first came to me when I read the book, “Inspiration ….your ultimate calling” by Dr. Wayne Dyer. I’ve just looked through the book but can’t find the precise examples I am looking for, in which he talks about paying for coffee for the person behind you, and how you can start a chain reaction of kindness that way. The same had happened when he or someone else had paid the toll fee for someone behind them.

There are many other examples in his books. He calls it being of service to someone else and says he looks for opportunity to do that every day. So a few years ago, I made a conscious decision to be extra kind whenever the opportunity presented itself. I bless my bus drivers when I get on the bus, and I thank the people with the hardest jobs…the most most menial jobs….for the work they do. As a result, I have found that when I need help, it comes to me so easily, and sometimes people are so kind to me for no reason at all, that I am amazed. However, I know it is all in the blessings.

Often too, I find that when I give up my seat on the bus or train, someone else will offer me a seat, and that will continue happening for days….someone giving up a seat for me. Every day at work, the opportunity presents itself for me to do an act of kindness for someone else. Usually when a person is enthused with thanks, I simply ask them to do something nice for someone else.

I know that on my birthday, I was actually looking to do an act of kindness (I don’t work on my birthday) but the only thing that really showed up for me, was to say “thank you” to the lady who cleans the Park, for the work she does. She gave me the biggest smile ever and had the most beautiful teeth. It made my day to be able to put a smile on her face. She had just given me directions for the closest exit from the park. About half an hour later who should I meet waiting for the train, but this same lady. I wasn’t totally sure it was her, but she sat directly opposite me on the train and when she saw me, she gave me another huge smile, and then we had a short conversation, with her telling me how the heat made it so hard to work outdoors. (Thinking about it now, makes me realize that I need to be grateful for my work enviroment and not complain about it being so cold. I have options,  but those who work outdoors have no way of keeping cooler).

I want to say here that this article is overdue and should have been written and published at the time that I sent out my request. For some reason, I kept putting it off as being too tired or not mentally prepared. Tonight however, I awoke thinking it was morning…time to get up. I looked at the clock and it was only 3 am. I could not get back to sleep and so I had to get up and write, and here am I at 4.30 am doing just that.

I know that means that there is someone somewhere out there who needs to read this post to be of service to someone….to be the answer to someone’s prayer. Whoever you are, do not hesitate to do the good that will have a great impact on someone else’s life. I have been at the receiving end of someone else’s goodness, often enough to know the truth about that.

Remember too, that it may not be something that you have to do, but rather something that you have to say…..a few words that may be a consolation or a confirmation to someone else….a sign that they have been waiting for.

As Dr Wayne Dyer did, I too will quote you Napoleon Hill….”If you can’t do great things, do small things in a great way. Don’t wait for great opportunities. Seize common, everyday ones and make them great.”

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Today’s a New Day

Today’s a new day

by Cathy

That’s right!!!

Today is a new day, and a new day means a new beginning.

Gone are yesterday’s old hurts and animosities.  You can choose to start over again.

Hit the START button to make today a better day….at the job, at home, with your spouse, with your kids.

Change the way you think, and the things you think will change.

So rather than think, “I can’t stand this job’, why not change it to I am so grateful to have a job today.

Instead of calling your spouse ‘useless’, how about, I am grateful to have a loving supportive spouse.

Instead of, ‘this is not a good day’, try  Today is a wonderful day and I am happy to be a part of it.

So now you’ve got the idea.  always remember that you create your own reality.  We all get off track because there is so much negativity floating around us; but if you can be aware of those moments and bring yourself back to center, it will certainly become easier to maintain a positive frame of mind and to enjoy the day by living in the present.

If you remember that not all those who start the day, will be around at the end of the day, maybe that will help you to enjoy what the day has to offer…..it could be warmer weather than expected, a walk in the park, a beautiful  photo moment, a call from a loved one, an enjoyable meal or an unexpected compliment.

Whatever it is that rocks your boat, just be grateful for it, and savour the moment.

Today is indeed a new day!!!!   Make it count!

THE SECRET OF FORGIVENESS

FORGIVENESS is a hard word for many people, and an even harder act.  The very use of the word “forgive” or “forgiveness” cause people to tense up, to get angry and to go to a dark place of remembrance of an event(s) or a person(s) who caused them great pain. I have no doubt that forgiveness is hard…like asking the impossible sometimes, but what I do know for sure, is that the act of forgiving another brings a great sense of freedom to the one who forgives.  I recall being angry at a family member for many years. That anger clouded my judgement and stole my joy for a long time, as we, who refuse to forgive, continue to replay the events in our minds over and over again, even at the most unexpected times.  Some of us even speak about it incessantly, to the point that our loved ones get frustrated with us.  However, one day I just decided that I couldn’t keep hurting myself anymore and I needed to let this go. What a glorious moment that was when I made peace with my transgressor…..blessed relief.  It was as if a heavy load had been taken away from me.  I became a happier person.  I was no longer sitting in judgment of someone else. I have since learnt that forgiveness is not for the one who has wronged you, but it is for yourself, so that you can be free to move on to a better place in your life, free maybe to love again or to live again or to feel joy again, free to be energized again, free to heal yourself. Marianne Williamson, author of “The gift of Change”, says it well when she says, “the fact that I forgive you doesn’t mean you “won”.  It doesn’t mean you “got away with something.”  It simply means I’m free to go back to the light, reclaim my inner peace, and stay there.” Forgiveness is for you, so go ahead and be big enough to say, “I forgive you.” Your life will change for the better.

Here’s what some very wise people had to say about forgiveness.

The weak can never forgive; forgiveness is an attribute of the strong….Mahatma Gandhi

To forgive is to set a prisoner free, and discover the prisoner was you…Unknown

I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note–torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one. — Henry Ward Beecher

Always forgive your enemies.  Nothing annoys them so much…Oscar Wildes

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it…Mark Twain