There are so many things we tolerate in our lives, day after day. Things that really irk us and raise our stress levels; things and people that steal our joy and drain our energy. We allow them to go on unabated because we are trying to avoid dealing with the crux of the matter.

So, what are you tolerating in your life right now?

An abusive spouse

Harassment on the job

Noisy neighbors

What have you done or what are you doing about it??……..nothing.  I got that right.  You don’t even want to think about it.

Well, now is your moment of truth.  Exhale, take some “me” time and get out a sheet of paper.

List your tolerations in the home, office and maybe even in your relationships.

Is there something you can do to change that situation to a more positive or healthier one?

Is there someone you need to speak to, and you have been avoiding it?

Is there something in your daily routine or schedule you can eliminate to make your day more meaningful?

What is the worse thing that can happen if you fail in your efforts?

What would be the end result if your efforts were successful?

Can you continue to ignore this toleration?  What would be the cost?

In reality (not TV), much of the cost would be on your emotional, physical and mental health.  What a price to pay!!!  So if you love yourself and if you value your health, go ahead and do what needs to be done.  It may not be as bad as it seems, and you may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.

In some cases, there may be some situations which cannot be resolved immediately.  In those situations, I invite you to re-evaluate who you are in those situations…how you respond at those times.  Do you just simply react, everytime you are in that situation?

If you cannot change the situation, change who you are in the situation.

Then watch your life change for the better.



  1. I think toleratint toleration comes from a lousy past. When you spoke up as a kid you got beat, and so now you are trained not to speak up, even when people can’t hit you anymore.

    • That may have been so, but you can retrain your mind and create a new habit of speaking up for yourself and for others. Toastmasters International will get you to get into the habit of speaking up. You are also speaking up every time you write a Post or share a comment. Affirmations can also help with the change you would like to make. So go ahead and take baby steps in speaking up.

  2. Really, when change is out of reach for the moment, for the greater good of your surrounding counterparts, being tolerant above and beyond what is even healthy for an individual, stress wise, is what the situation calls for…at this time. So much of our lives are presented as what we must do to meet obligations & satisfy the needs of others. Life is complicated and often there is no open end discussion that will bring about good change. When there is no other option than to be the dedicated soldier, so be it! This is now…not for ever! What ever is needed…I will rise to the calling & carry my self dignity & self worth being the selfless individual that I am, that usually gets taken advantage of, and I will be proud within…that I am a giver & a doer…not a slacker and a user.

    • Alison…thank you for sharing. When the time feels right for you, you have the power to bring about change in your life. Being selfless can sometimes have its own drawbacks, such as stress and illness, because you are being someone that you don’t want to be, or doing things that you don’t want to do. It’s ok to say no sometimes. it may not have the implications that you think…you may be pleasantly surprised. Check out my upcoming article about saying “NO”.

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